I was accused of being a control freak (with work). At first I was surprised, but then realized how my taking initiative could come across as controlling. I think the difference is that my natural instinct is to act as a leader and so I take the initiative, however I’m always willing to hear a valid argument, and I’m always open to contribution and actually prefer collaborating instead of instructing. (By valid I mean an opinion backed up by logic or some kind of factual reasoning.) So I guess what I’m curious about, is whether or not this accusation was made out of honesty or defense. If it was made out of honesty then I could try to communicate my opinion on initiative vs. control and try to help then understand the difference. But if their accusation came from their own insecurity to be assertive / take initiative, I’m not really sure how to respond. Maybe it doesn’t matter. I’m always trying to level with people. But what I’m realizing is you can’t level with people who don’t have a realistic perspective on their own life. Of course, maybe I’m too practical. I’m just going to continue to stand strong and do what I feel is fair and right.